In relationships, ESFPs enjoy making people happy, and having a fun and exciting social life, according to Hackston.
However, he says, “the fact that they are too popular might raise red flags to their romantic partners.” One, because it’s difficult to make time for everyone, he says, but also, not every romantic partner is open to sharing an ESFP’s attention, and may feel forgotten or neglected.
ESFPs also like to experience a lot of variety in their lives, and that includes in their relationships. Hackston explains that individuals with ESFP preferences “will experiment a lot before they commit to someone,” though he adds that when they are dedicated, “they are affectionate and caring partners.”
In terms of general compatibility, Hallett notes that for any type, “The way your potential partner approaches the world and communicates (similar in sensing/intuition) is another good indicator of initial attraction.” So in this case, Sensing types, like ESFPs, fare well with other Sensing types.
She also notes that differences in extroversion/introversion may cause the most conflict in long-term relationships, so ESFPs on the far end of the extraverted spectrum may want to keep that in mind and pair up with another extravert.
And according to Hackston, ESFPs are likely to thrive with a partner who has a similar sense of adventure (i.e. an ISFP, ISTP, ESTP, and other ESFPs), as opposed to a more structured, planned life you would get with Judging individuals.